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When a girl passes by some men, they try to tease her by their words or actions. But why should this happen? isn't any law against such men? They look at girls and women like thier preys. I just read a notebook entry about such a case here on italki. And then I thought why women should be in danger when they walk alone?!
I dont know in your country but you can sue them for verbally and emotionally abuse.
In every Patriarchal society you can see that Women will be always objectified and commodified and mutual respect goes out the window. In such societies you will always find quite high rate of abuse of women, domestic violence, etc.In most of these societies children grow up watching women take on a submissive role, basically do things that men find unmanly to do themselves. In such societies Male children grow up thinking as women to be the naturally the weaker sex. The rational behind right and wrong gets skewed when you see your own parents behave that way, its only obvious of one to grow up think that its all normal. And this very same attitude reflects when one interacts in the society with other women.
In india The Khasi and Jaintiya people of the state of Meghalaya are a Matriarchal society. Where children inherit their mother's names, Women inherit the family house and business. Men are married into the family. THis state used to have the least cases of Domestic abuse or violence and rape.But its slowly on the rise as boys are sent outside to get educated, they see how in rest of the country males dominate and start to resent their roles back home.
But at the same time less than 2 hours away from the Urban capital of Delhi, in the state of Uttar Pradesh lies villages with about just 700 women for 1000 men as a result of sex selective abortions and female feticide because in such societies its a burden to have a female child with exorbitant dowries for marriages. Its considered to invest in a girl child's education because they eventually just become house wives and are of no use to the Parents. Which unfortunately is true within such systems.
So in these villages there are no women available to get married. Women are sourced form the poor regions from the state of Orissa, and are literally bought paying the girl's parents sums as low as 10,000 rupees, which is equivalent to 160 $ USD. THese girls are married to the eldest sons in a family of 3-4 male sons and these women are see for sexual intercourse by all the siblings and sometimes even abused by the Father-in-law. Because bringing another wife for 160 $ is considered expensive and hence they are trying to make the best use of the situation. Its really difficult for NGO's to get through to these women because in these area its forbidden for family women to venture outside of the house without being accompanied by a male member of the family.
But i don't think complete equality exists even in the west. I find it futile and personally distastefully irrational, debating which among the unequals is better. But even in the west i have seen this Unseen line which is beyond question or debate. When asked why in the name of common decency,is it ok for a man to be topless in public but not for a women. My questions have always been dismissed off as idiotic or unnecessary. Or the women start moaning that "Real women have bigger issues, like equal wage etc." But none wants to contest the basic notions of these skewed gender roles.
No matter how liberal they are , i think women with this social structure are brought up to think a certain way, like being treated a special way… and don't want anything drastic that shakes the basic foundation of the notion of a family. They like those those extra special treatment when, its a man who professes his love or goes down on one knee to propose. They don't want to loose all that.Now i'm basically bored of typing.. so what i want to say is… In the current scenario, the human race is full of quixotic predicaments, but lot of its issues can be solved with gender neutral upbringing. Children need to be brought up in environments where neither sex sees the other as powerful or weak.
@Doris Day: In my country if a man raped a woman he would be prosecuted. He must pay for it. The penalty would be very heavy for such men. But unfortunately, some raped women don't complain to keep their family's face and honor. I'm personally against this silence because it will make some men take advantage of women's silence, and therefore feel free to practice their nasty ideas.
@Lucifel: Thanks for giving me so much information about your country. I always wanted to know about the situatin of women in India. Yes, I agree with you. In most Patriarchal societies women have a difficult situation. They live in the shadow of men. Men always have the last word and women have to be subordinate. In such socities women's confidence is below zero sometimes. Sadly some of them even believe that men are better, stronger, and smarter. They are open to be humilated, tortured, and abused. And men who abuse them clearly know they have no real protectors. However, this could happen for women in every part of the world. For instance, one of my friends lived in a wealthy European country for a while. She told me how one of her classmates was raped, and the court only sentenced the rapers to pay her some money!
It is also like that here in my country other choose to remain silent however woman now a days are more quite courageous .. They know now how to fight and take legal action against those who abuse them. Organization for women rights are really of great help for abuse woman to find courage to fight.