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five life pity,do u recall something ?

A soothing therapy nurse did a research in the last days of her patient. And the research show us the most five life pity are :

1.I wish I had courageously  to lived a life ture to mysilf not one that others expected of me.

2. I wish I had not spent all my life working.

3.If only I had gained courage to express how I felt.

4. I wish I had remained in touch with my friends.

5. If only I had allowed happinese into my life.




1.  I  have  not, for the past  26 years,   lived my life in accordance with the expectations of others.

I try to be courteous or appropriate or at least civil, but before I care what someone else "thinks" they must show me that they can actually "think".


 2.   I enjoyed my hitch-hiking days,  travelling   from  Indiana, to New York, to Florida, through Georgia and on up through Illinois to  Minnesota,  and west to  South Dakota and Wyoming  and on to San Fransicso, California and south through New Mexico, Texas, Missouri, and back to Indiana, only to end up in Colorado.   I  have spent weeks and months  not working, because I wanted to do other things. 


Of course,  I missed out on a Trade,   Career, and  Profession, but I learned a few things along the way which are useful to me today.


3.   I have had the courage to express how I felt. I've pounded my fists on tables and screamed at people.   I've threatened people,   and neither of those am I proud of today.  I have learned to express myself Logically and Factually in written communication and I am very pleased to do that at every opportunity like a Gentleman.  I can be an articulate speaker when occasion demands it.


4.   Friends?  I have never had  long lasting Friends.  In the U. S. Marine Corps, we were taught that we never had friends. We were told we had "Military Acquaintances". It's easier when men die, to let go of them that way.    If mankind abandons Jesus Christ, they will treat me no better.




5. Happiness-- True. I could have found so much love in other people, had I not wasted so much time on foolish Idealism, demanding perfection of others and demanding no perfection from myself.

I was Ego-Centric, Selfish and Self-Centered. Which is why I work so much more today to share love with everyone I meet. I think the counsel is well given, which tells us to be Happy with those who are Happy, and Kind to those who are kind. When others are Angry or Negative, I allow them to have their space. I don't need to engage in Negativism.

God Gave me a wonderful life. I lived it as an adventure, casting off all Societal Conventions; but some of those conventions are useful. I was too wild and too poorly educated. I had to learn everything on my own, starting from zero. Thank God I found Science, Philosophers, Artists, Lawyers

and Theologians and Novelists and Writers of Non-Fiction who have offered the light of knowledge.


@Bruce  I totally agree with " before I care what someone else "thinks" they must show me that they can actually "think"."  I had an argument with my family a family,a few days ago. Because they used " I think " as a reason to fight against my decision. Before they said " I think" ,can they just search on internet or find others way to figure out the nature.I admit they are much elder than me and must exprienced more than me. But there are still some things they don't knoture. I don't want a " I think" , I need more convincing reasons~! Even if I know what they expect is I be good..... 

  Do I look like a rebellious adolecent child.....hahaha


"Military Acquaintances" is necesary when u are a soldier becuase death can be nearly during the war days. But when u are in a peace time and living a common life, will it be a pity u never get too much close with others?


"If mankind abandons Jesus Christ, they will treat me no better." means if u don't be much good to others, they will do the same,so if they are dead in war, u can get throught it easier,right? 


(1) "If mankind abandons Jesus Christ, they will treat me no better." means if u don't be much good to others, they will do the same,so if they are dead in war, u can get throught it easier,right? ---Ale


   Let me start the idea fresh.   It means that if any iconic and innocent figure  in humanity, can be rejected and badly treated, it is reasonable to suppose that I shall not be treated well by a general humanity. This bears out in my experience.


(2) "But when u are in a peace time and living a common life, will it be a pity u never get too much close with others?"---Ale


    Agreed. It is most unfortunate  that I developed huge barriers and held people at a great distance.

I can look back and see that there were some very nice people who probably tried to open communication with me, but I demonstrated some very   Fear-Based  characteristics.

I recognized eventually, that I lived like a Prisoner  of my own thought and feeling. But insight like that was not what reall made it possible for me to change.  Looking back, there were people show showed love to me, and who assured me that forgiveness  was possible.  I did not do anything myself. Other people carried me until I learned "how--to--walk"  on my own.






  Kahlil  Gibran  wrote on this subject Ale:


"On Children

And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, "Speak to us of Children." And he said: Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts. For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far. Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness; For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable."-------






"Do I look like a rebellious adolecent child?"---Ale


     Not in specific.  Disagreements between family and youths   are common, and there is no simple answer as to who is  correct in their thinking.


  Parents want their children to be practical.   Practical   looks to some like  having boredom or meaninglessness as a destiny.


     One thing is certain however.  Those who would truly emerge as adults,  must eventually take control of their own destiny.   Whether that includes   following inner guidance exclusively,  or  following  the practical expectations of Family   is entirely up to the individual  to choose.

A   good parent,   prepares a child to take control  by about the age of 18.


   There is a kind of spiritual fault I have seen in my own country. It has to do with adults trying to

"parent" their children beyond a certain age,  like about 18 or so.   After all,  for 18 years they have the opportunity to teach and guide.  Then, it is time for the adults to stop "parenting".


   In that regard, I never tell my children what they "must do".  I can suggest a think or two, but only as a courtesy. I don't criticize.


 Anyway Ale, that is the guideline that I have tried to follow with my own children.

If you have a disagreement with family,   give it some reflection and make your choices   based upon the best information you can find.




@Bruce         Thanks~~~~

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