I think the most important thing for a person is to be himself/herself. You don't have to change yourself in order to get friends. Especially your not smoking and not drinking is a good thing, you don't have to change them to get friends. The alternative is to try to get to know people who are like you or at least whom you might feel comfortable with. Finally, the world is too big now. If you are not satisfied somewhere, try to change the place and leave it. You know Malay, so you may able to find good jobs in Malaysia, whose girls are mostly like you, and your are Uygur who are ethnically Turks, which means it won't be very difficult to get to know some good Turkish people who are just like you in their manners. Good luck