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The public me and the private me
I was once asked whether I was an outgoing person in a job interview for a position that involved dealing with visitors a lot. I answered, "Frankly speaking, I think I am an introvert who likes reading and researching. But I can be an extrovert if this is what's asked by some occasions in the job." And guess what? I landed the job. I still consider myself an introvert, who enjoys spending much of my her time in solitude1*, reading, writing, watching videos, or just doing nothing. I have a great sense of freedom when I am all alone, and I consider "spending time with myself" a daily must for relaxation and reflection. But this side of me may not be desirable in everyday interaction with others, especially at get-togethers and in situations where I act as a host to business partners. So I try to show more of my agregarious side on these occasions by being more lively and talkative. I consider this to be the "public me". In private, I am sentimental and easily given to sad emotions. But I try to play down this part of me and be more positive in public. I don't think this is faking or anything. Rather, I see both sides the as an integral part of my real character, although the inner-oriented side is overwhelmingly stronger. I am OK with it most of the time, though at times regret that people fall in love with my smiles only but to ignore2*, purposefully or not, my frowns.
1* or- I enjoy spending much of my time ...
2* I would prefer - 'only to ingore'.
I don't usually work with high level students so I may have missed something.
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