Here's a British perspective:
1. Yes, 'afternoon tea' is what you'd call a snack or light meal in the mid- to late-afternoon. It can just be tea and a biscuit/cookie or piece of cake, or may involve sandwiches, scones, crumpets and so on. In the days of rich folks living in big houses full of servants, this was a daily event. These days, however, it's a fairly rare one, and something of a 'treat'. On a Sunday afternoon, for example, older people might invite friends round for 'tea', or else go out to have 'afternoon tea' in a tea shop or hotel in town or in the countryside. The younger generation do this less, needless to say.
2. A flask, or Thermos flask.
3. Cooled, boiled water.