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Most people who wanted to learn Japanese in dealing with the Japanese. However, most Japanese who speak English they want to associate with the English speaking people.

Which is the better language to deal with the Japanese ?

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My nephew he married a Japanese girl, but her mother denied her own identity, claiming that she don't speak Japanese at all. I noticed that her mother always talk Japanese with her own family members. My question is: why Japanese considered themself non-Japanese and speaking Japanese is a shame?

For learning: Japanese
Base language: Japanese
Category: WK087

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    Not all Japanese are what you think.
    You shouldn't decide things when you see only a part.

    Japanese & English?

    French or Bulgarian ;)

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    Whichever you speak more fluently and accurately.

    As you may know, Japanese language is highly context-depending language. We put very subtle nuance and emotion carefully between lines. Therefore, if you want to do business with Japanese people in Japanese language, you have to be really fluent almost in native level. Otherwise there would happen miscommunication, misunderstanding, and loss of business. Business is different from friendship.

    Nevertheless, we feel very happy when foreigners somewhat speaks Japanese or even just interested in Japan. For this reason, learning Japanese would be a great help to make good relationship.

    eeeeh ...
    Japanese consider themselves Japanese because it's their nationality.
    and Speaking Japanese is not a shame because it's primary language.

    In your case , your nephew can only speak English and his Japanese wife must have spoken English to communicate with him. I take it for granted to talk with the language which the partner can best use for communication. To get along is a kind of implicit virtues.

    and English is good enough to communicate . Actually I have 1 friend who worked for AEON (one of the biggest English conversation school)
    but she could survive without Japanese language though she lived in extraordinary countryside. That means there are , at least , a few volunteers and sociable people who can speak English even countryside because it's one of our subjects in compulsory education.

     

    Hi... Try to speak the language the person wants to hear ... that's all.
    you all the time considered whice language is better for her mother,but you don't think which language you prefer,don't you think it's a shame as well?moreover,your position is higher than her mother.....
    you supposed there would be more native Japanese to anwer your question,but you failed,OMG,another shame...
    hehe,her mother really define "shame" like this?

    I probably did not understand your question correctly but... of course I would try to speak japanese if I can speak the language. Even if your japanese is not very good...
    If you are not able to get your point across you could always try english. Not everyone might understand english .. but I would say that your chances are pretty good.

    Edit:
    I think alucky got the answer. If I speak with someone I usally pick the language that I think they understand best. Or the language that most of the people understand in a group. So maybe her mother did not want to make it difficult for you. Or she wanted to practise another language.

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