New Phrases for Conversation: Speaking with friends, Speaking at Work

Which phrase below means the same as: She needs to be realistic about the problem. 

She need to wake up and smell the coffee.

Which phrase below means the same as: She's pretending the problem isn't too serious. 

She needs to wake up and smell the coffee.

Which phrase below means the same as: He needs to be emotionally stronger. 

He needs to wake up and smell the coffee.

Which phrase below means the same as: He needs to relax. 

Which phrase below means the same as: He should wear less formal, more casual clothes.