I want to be a optimistic but sometimes I have pessimism.
I know people like optimistic friends. I like optimistic friends too.
When someone feel hopeless, I really don't know how to comfort him or her. Every effrots I can do for him or her at that time can be so tiny.
So I don't want friends to be worried when I feel hopeless. Also, when I feel hopeless, I don't want to do anything even something is very important.
I want to be a positive people.
I am not sure if people really choose which one they are, I think it may be due to the type of childhood one had. If it was one of extreme abuse and neglect, that child may grow up to have a very negative view of the world, because most of what he/she experienced was difficult, scary and painful.
I find it nearly impossible at times to be optomistic, I tend towards depression and hopelessness, so it is easier for me to feel despair and pessimism that optomistic - I guess I have seen too many horrible things in my life to believe that ' tomorrow will be a better day ' as often it is not.
There are definitely articles on google and books you can read to develop the skill of abandoning pessisism.
You perfectly understood what i meant, Y.Q. !
Thank you Michael, but I don't think I can understand your words very much.
Do you mean a pessimist is hopeless because he know something more than a optimist?