Thank yu, Michael, I will think about this. To not make things more complicated then they are.

Alevtina, you are trying to understand unexpected things that are happening to you, aren't you? Well...try to look at this from another point of view. These things are just happening , that's it. There is nothing more to it. And the only reason they are unexpected is you don't expect them to happen,  but they are happening regardless whether you expect them to happen or not. And even if you want to explain to yourself why these things are happening, there is nothing to do with your expectations.  But if you tend to make something out of nothing,  if you like to complicate everything even if it's simple, you can keep thinking about destiny and stuff like this)))