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Inappropriate behaviour Most of the time I really enjoy italki. Here are many nice people who want to learn languages. I love to participate in their learning progress, answering their German related questions, helping them to understand my native tongue. The majority of the people on italki probably think the same way as I do. I'm thankful whenever someone is kind enough to correct my entries. I am also happy when someone is politely asking me (after having read my profile) if we could be language(!) partners (Standard British English/French/Dutch - German). In this way learning languages is a lot of fun. But some people seem to misunderstand italki as a dating platform. They offensively obtrude themselves upon you and don't accept a "no". No matter how often you explain that you are NOT looking for friends. That you do NOT want to talk to strangers per skype. Most of the time I delete that kind of messages and block their "creators" at once. Strangely enough, it is noticable that those messages usually come from ... let's call them "southern people" even if they don't necessarily live in the south. While I can't complain about the women, some men don't seem to truly follow their religious values even though they invoke lauds on their god in their profiles. I mean there are idiots in every society. But why are 99% of the idiots who feel a need to obtrude themselves upon me followers of a particular religion? How can I stay open-minded if a common prejudice proves itself again and again and again?

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Inappropriate behaviour

Most of the time I really enjoy italki. Here are many nice people who want to learn languages. I love to participate in their learning progress, answering their German related questions, helping them to understand my native language.

The majority of the people on italki probably think the same way as I do. I'm thankful whenever someone is kind enough to correct my entries. I am also happy when someone is politely asking me (after having read my profile) if we could be language(!) partners (Standard British English/French/Dutch - German). In this way learning languages is a lot of fun.

But some people seem to misunderstand italki as a dating platform. They offensively obtrude themselves upon you and don't accept a "no"(for an answer). No matter how often you explain that you are NOT looking for friends. That you do NOT want to talk to strangers via skype.

Most of the time I delete that kind of messages and block their "creators" at once.

Strangely enough, it is noticable that those messages usually come from ... let's call them "southern people" even if they don't necessarily live in the south. While I can't complain about the women, some men don't seem to truly follow their religious values even though they invoke lauds on their God in their profiles.

I mean there are idiots in every society. But why are 99% of the idiots who feel a need to obtrude themselves upon me followers of a particular religion?

How can I stay open-minded if a common prejudice proves itself again and again? and again?

  I would just like to agree with you totally. This happens a lot, and I don't like it at all. I always get strangers which are mostly Indian people, writing such things. Of course, I block them in first minute they send that message. :)

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I was searching for German speakers and I came across your entry; which I corrected because no natives had taken a look at it. I was pretty nit-picky since your English is excellent and you need harsh graders to improve. :)

Sorry about your bad experiences with "Southern" people on italki, though I don't really know what that is exactly referring to. One one hand, it is obviously very good to be open-minded. On the other hand, you can't talk to everybody and *some* stereotypes have to be used in certain instances. For instance, if you are approached by a stranger at 2AM in a dark street of a very poor neighborhood, it is smart to assume that the stranger may be dangerous since crime tends to be higher in poor areas and it is late. And some things are logical. If I were to select a random German man or if I were to pick a Chinese man picked at random, obbs are that the German man is taller than the Chinese man. There are exceptions, but a betting person would bet on one outcome over another.

 

Inappropriate behaviour

Most of the time I really enjoy italki. Here there are many nice people who want to learn languages. I love to participate in their learning progress, answering their German related questions, helping them to understand my native tongue.

The majority of the people on italki probably think the same way as I do. I'm thankful whenever someone is kind enough to correct my entries. I am also happy when someone is politely asking me (after having read my profile) if we could be language(!) partners (Standard British English/French/Dutch - German). In this way learning languages is a lot of fun.

But some people seem to misinterpret misunderstand italki as a dating platform. They offensively obtrude intrude themselves upon you and don't accept a "no" as an answer. No matter how often you explain that you are NOT looking for friends. That you do NOT want to talk to strangers via/on per skype.

Most of the time I delete those that kinds of messages and block their "creators" at once.

Strangely enough, it is noticable that those messages usually come from ... let's call them "southern people" even if they don't necessarily live in the south. While I can't complain about the women, some men don't seem to truly follow their religious values even though they invoke lauds (what do you mean by "lauds"? I haven't heard it in English, though it may exist!) on their God in their profiles.

I mean there are idiots in every society. But why are 99% of the idiots who feel a need to intrude (now that I think about it, "obtrude" may be right) obtrude themselves upon me followers of a particular religion?

How can I stay open-minded if a common prejudice proves itself again and again and again?

 

 

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Inappropriate behaviour

Most of the time I really enjoy italki. Here are many nice people who want to learn languages. I love to participate in their learning progress, answering their German related questions, helping them to understand my native tongue.

The majority of the people on italki probably think the same way as I do. I'm thankful whenever someone is kind enough to correct my entries. I am also happy when someone is politely asking me (after having read my profile) if we could be language(!) partners (Standard British English/French/Dutch - German). In this way learning languages is a lot of fun. (why the exclamaton mark (!) ?)

But some people seem to misunderstand italki as a dating platform. They offensively obtrude themselves upon you and don't accept a "no". No matter how often you explain that you are NOT looking for friends. That you do NOT want to talk to strangers per skype.

Most of the time I delete such that kind of messages and block their "creators" at once. ('that kind of ...s ... their' is just awkward so I recommend changing to simpler 'such')

Strangely enough, it is noticeable that those messages usually come from ... let's call them "southern people" even if they don't necessarily live in the south.(cannot imagine who 'Southern people' might be!) While I can't complain about the women, some men don't seem to truly follow their religious values even though they invoke lauds on heap praise on/lavish praise on/sing the praises of/laud/invoke their god ('invoke on' is wrong) - in their profiles.

I mean there are idiots in every society. But why are 99% of the idiots who feel a need to obtrude themselves upon me followers of a particular religion? Most religions indulge in self promotion - they almost all evangelise 

How can I stay open-minded if a common prejudice proves itself again and again and again?

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Please don't close yourself to people, there's a lot of thing to learn from them...They are your teachers to understand your path of truth. As a german individual, your education system, your beliefs based in your past and the way you comunicate and feel about the world is very different than the rest of us. In my personal view is very strange that human beings are so afraid from others. In NYC just as Germany people don't say "hi" to each other like someone will do in Italy or south america. The question is:"What are the phrases we say to ourselves when the people you mentioned above come to our attention?"(what's your mantra?) As a young good looking woman(a bless or a curse depends on your perception) life isn't easy sometimes with men's harassment or perhaps with women with evil thoughts, envious comments or mischiefs agains you. All those things, are just darkness trying to extinguish your light. Don't let it happen...Live with Passion no matter what. Many males don't realize that beauty is just an illusion, and their strong desires to find a mate are just the reflexion of the fire of our spirits trying to awake to a higher consciousness. In India they call it "Kundalini" energy. The majority of adults just want to connect to others, because we feel curious trying to find truths about life, but that connection isn't romantic all the time. There are things we must learn from every drama we encounter. Do you know that a lot of woman will love just a little attention from any male? Just because they are not that pretty and society judge them because of that. Yes, there are wackos out there...but don't close yourself. Your are doing a great job by helping others. Let that passion burst to heaven!
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@Abdullah: Thanks for your comment. But although I'm quite new to italki, I'm not new to the internet. I've been using it since 1998. In German chat rooms a decade ago, I found the same kind of man as I found here. The only difference was that those guys were white and probably not moslems. Racism? (Is religion a race? Is it racism having detected them as white men? Or is racism just for non-whites?) *** I've met many, many people on italki. Also Arabs. Probably moslems. (I don't care.) Not everyone is an idiot who can't behave. And (if you had read all the comments, you'd know that) I don't care whether somebody believes in God, Allah, Jahweh, Shiva, or whatsoever. *** It has been a while since I got an inappropriate message from a man (or woman). As you can see, I haven't written any new complain about that issue for serveral month.

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