What does "It's not a fag, darlin', you have to hold it in." mean? Hi, This is a paragraph from a novel. What does 'fag' mean? What does "It's not a fag, darlin', you have to hold it in." mean? "But you want to know how to really be great? How your Great Lover really pleases a lady? Now, all your basic smoothie-type fellows will always say they know, they're an authority and such. It's not a fag, darlin', you have to hold it in. Most of these fellows, they haven't got the first damn idea how to really please a lady."