generally its means so confused, deuced, stupid, dizzy etc... with a feel of anger or appeal. but its informal I don't recommend to use it anyway instead you may use "gij". No difference in gender. about the bird I heard it too but I'm not sure.
oskol shodam: I'm confused.
oskolam kardi: (stop it) you made me confused.
please help me, I'm so confused haha:
lotfan komakam konid, oskol shodam!
see also: koskhol