Carol's choices are the most typical. Here's why: Here, “would” is used with its original meaning from Old English: Would like / would want. You can use it in your examples when you feel that it is a matter of the other person’s will (i.e. willingness). When I say “I wish you would listen”, the implication is that you don’t listen because you refuse to (i.e., don’t want to) listen. It’s definitely a bit more confrontational.

1. I wish you lived here. 2. I wish you would listen to me. 3. I wish you were more attentive. I think that's right and preferable. Let's hear what others have to say If different.

Phil is right. Knowing what sounds grammatically right and knowing when to use it in conversation comes with a lot of practice. I hope we managed to satisfactorily answer your question. If you'd like to practice speaking, I'd be happy to help you. Feel free to look at my teaching profile and send me a message if you think I can help you.