woo... That doesnt sound so friendly tho. If you have some trouble with korean maybe I can help you. Feel free to contact me. to answer your question, I will translate it first. If you really want to change that, why don't you look for another person? 던가, is used when you talk about option, like or. it is attracted to a verb. similar to 거나. ex) if you are stressed, you can take a break or linsten to music 스트레스 받으면, 잠깐 쉬던가 음악 듣던가 해. 스트레스 받으면, 잠깐 쉬거나 음악 들어. I hope it will help

던가 is past tense. "내가 어제 숙제를 했던가? (did I do my homework?)" "아~ Nadia는 요리를 하려 했던가 보다." (Nadia would have tried to cook.) 든가 is like "either or". "정 바꾸고 싶으면 나 말고 다른 사람을 찾아보든가" (찾아보든지, 말든지) "헤어지든지 말든지" (0) "헤어지던지 말던지"

I answered :)