Chinese (?Asian) Family-Stucture: How to be fully accepted and ways of approaching the patriarch Like a lot of us might have had the experience, my initial trigger to start taking on a new language was relationship...at least in some ways. Anyway, my question is: "Is there a way of being fully accepted into a Chinese family, with somewhat equal right and duties...somehow gain a sort of equal status, like a true member...? I mean something that lies beyond money and your usefulness;P"i had a 2nd....and 3rd thought about it: i know in fact and that's the same here in Europe, that in most families nothing will ever come between you and your family but we seam to attach more value to personal interests.. ..."so what's the news?"..i know, anyway: I believe it all boils down to that, you rather achieve goals for the good of the whole family then for you own...I know being friends in that sense can never be a goal of itsown but what do you value it for then, usefulness? (btw.that's what we try to do here, built a friendly relationship with the rest of the family and that's enough....) Help!!! ...if it ever comes to this again, I'll just be stuck in the same situation. I don't see much hope there and I'm not even mentioning the "problem" that Im only a "老外" ...and i don't want to stage an accident to save the fathers life or so;P ...any suggestions?...and i see my friends count allready dropping;P hehe