Loren
They asked me in a job interview " You are 38 years old. Didn't you want to have kids?" Hello! My name is Loren and I am brazilian. I've been looking for a new job for a long time and it has not been easy, because my country struggle against crises year after year. After having my second graduation, I have had the opportunity of going in some jobs interview and there is a unpleasant point that I would like to talk here. I know that it is forbidden to ask for a candidate this kinds of questions, but here where I live it is not a problem at all. I went to about 10 job interview in the past months, and when the boss is men they ask it to me. Last time the man said "you are 38 years old and you know that you don't have many time to have a baby. Aren't you going to have a baby"? Honestly, I felt very bad. Because I want to grow in my career but I want to have a baby one day. Well, I know that everything will work well, but certain thinks let us down sometimes. By the way, I am looking for a language exchange from Germany. I want to practice my English skills.
Mar 5, 2021 10:49 PM
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Don't be sad because of these situations. The people who talk like that just show who they really are: Selfish. I don't know about your beliefs, but talking to God is always a good way to not get discouraged. You’re still young and got time to do whatever you want. I wish you the best!
Mar 5, 2021 11:31 PM
They asked me in a job interview, " You are 38 years old. Didn't you want to have kids?" Hello! My name is Loren and I am Brazilian. I've been looking for a new job for a long time and it has not been easy because my country is struggling with a series of crises, year after year. After having my second graduation, I have had the opportunity to go to some job interviews. I would like to talk here about something unpleasant. I know that it is forbidden to ask a candidate this kind of question, but here where I live it is not a problem at all if it happens. I went to about 10 job interviews in the past few months, and when the boss is male they've asked me about this. The last time, the man said, "You are 38 years old and you know that you don't have much time to have a baby. Aren't you going to have a baby"? Honestly, I felt very bad. Because I want to grow in my career but I also want to have a baby someday. Well, I know that everything will work out well, but certain things let us down sometimes. By the way, I am looking for a language exchange from Germany. I want to practice my English skills.
I'm sorry you've had this sort of experience. You shouldn't have been talked to in this way, of course. Your writing skills are good!
Mar 5, 2021 11:19 PM
They asked me in a job interview " You are 38 years old. Didn't you want to have kids?" Hello! My name is Loren and I am Brazilian. I've been looking for a new job for a long time and it has not been easy, because my country has struggled with crises year after year. After having my second graduation, I have had the opportunity to go on some job interviews and there is a unpleasant situation that I would like to talk about here. I know that it is forbidden to ask a candidate this kind of question, but here where I live it is not a problem at all. I went to about 10 job interviews in the past few months (or "in the past month"), and when the boss is a man, they ask me this question. Last time, the man said "You are 38 years old and you know that you don't have much time to have a baby. Aren't you going to have a baby?" Honestly, I felt very bad because I want to grow in my career but I also want to have a baby one day. Well, I know that everything will work well, but certain things let us down sometimes. By the way, I am looking for a language exchange from Germany. I want to practice my English skills.
I'm sorry you live in a place where men do this and it is legal. If it is not illegal to say that you will not have a baby and you could keep your job, you could just say "I have been happy with my life so far without a baby and I'm sure I will remain happy at this point." Even though it is illegal for them to ask in the United States, they still do it and that was my answer! Your writing is very good.
Mar 6, 2021 2:59 AM
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Loren
Language Skills
English, French, Portuguese
Learning Language
English, French