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Why people who you have talked with don’t talk you again?

Why people who you have talked with don’t talk you again?

I think about that situation and I don’t know what happen, perhaps, I’m not the unique person who thinks about it too. I know we have our jobs, our occupations and different things to do but, I wonder if they really want to talk to you again hahaha, I would like to know what the reason is.

On the other hand, that’s bad, for example, when you have spare time and you want to talk with someone then, you’ll look at your contact on Skype, some of your contacts are “available” but you don´t know if they have time, if they are busy and what happen… you’ll look for new “partners” and that means to start over, you’ll talk about topics or things you have talked about and that’s really bored.

The bottom line is… I’m tired to do this over and over hahaha. 

What do you think about this? 

Aug 10, 2016 9:24 PM
Comments · 11
It's normal, especially when people are not really serious about studying. I find that a lot of people just want to make friends are pass time... when they see that you are serious about learning, they move on to the next victim. 
August 10, 2016
The funny thing for me is that so many people contact me asking to chat. I say yes we can, I give them my Skype and times that I can practice and I almost never hear from them again. Why? Beats me. I don't fret it too much. I just keep up with my learning and when the next person comes along I'll always be ready to chat with them.
August 10, 2016
I think this acquaintance in Internet is similar to real life. You meet someone, then you know the person, and if you are interested in this person, if he has similar interests with you, you will definitely want to talk with him again.
But conversely if this person is boring for you, then you do not want to continue to communicate with him.
Not everyone we meet in our life, can become our friend.
August 10, 2016

I noticed that too. It is mostly attitude of people I've met over the internet, in big communities like italki, for example. Besides looking for language partners, people are looking here for cool people they can become friends with, to make conversations more interesting and tell them more details from personal live, at least it's what I think.

August 10, 2016

This is a great question. I've been active on 4 different conversation sites in Spanish, French and now Portuguese. This conundrum happens on all of them. I've found that there are many reasons.

The first reason is that when you start out, all you know is basic vocabulary. If the conversation gets too complicated then you become uninterested, confused and embarrassed that you don't understand questions or how to respond to them.

The second reason is that sometimes your not sure where your common interests are. It's easier to look at headings and talk to someone about one thing then to dig deeper and really get to know one person. Sad.

The third. Sometimes people have spouses or significant others that get jealous if you are spending too much time conversing. Especially to people of the opposite sex. 

The fourth. People are worried about being Cat Fished. If they make less of an investment in conversations with you then they don't get hurt if the person happens to be making all of their experiences up. ( It's a sad world that we live in.)


However, i have 5 people that I talk to daily. 2 in Portuguese, 3 in spanish. Then I have 10-20 people that I talk to semi regularly. Skype isn't friendly for this. I don't get alerts on my phone and I never see messages. Therefore I use the app Tandem on I phone and/or Imessenger for Facebook. It tends to be better for me and my spontaneous conversations. lol. Anyways, I hope this helps.

August 10, 2016
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Luisa
Language Skills
English, Portuguese, Spanish
Learning Language
English, Portuguese