Why people who you have talked with don’t talk you again?
I think about that situation and I don’t know what happen, perhaps, I’m not the unique person who thinks about it too. I know we have our jobs, our occupations and different things to do but, I wonder if they really want to talk to you again hahaha, I would like to know what the reason is.
On the other hand, that’s bad, for example, when you have spare time and you want to talk with someone then, you’ll look at your contact on Skype, some of your contacts are “available” but you don´t know if they have time, if they are busy and what happen… you’ll look for new “partners” and that means to start over, you’ll talk about topics or things you have talked about and that’s really bored.
The bottom line is… I’m tired to do this over and over hahaha.
What do you think about this?
I noticed that too. It is mostly attitude of people I've met over the internet, in big communities like italki, for example. Besides looking for language partners, people are looking here for cool people they can become friends with, to make conversations more interesting and tell them more details from personal live, at least it's what I think.
This is a great question. I've been active on 4 different conversation sites in Spanish, French and now Portuguese. This conundrum happens on all of them. I've found that there are many reasons.
The first reason is that when you start out, all you know is basic vocabulary. If the conversation gets too complicated then you become uninterested, confused and embarrassed that you don't understand questions or how to respond to them.
The second reason is that sometimes your not sure where your common interests are. It's easier to look at headings and talk to someone about one thing then to dig deeper and really get to know one person. Sad.
The third. Sometimes people have spouses or significant others that get jealous if you are spending too much time conversing. Especially to people of the opposite sex.
The fourth. People are worried about being Cat Fished. If they make less of an investment in conversations with you then they don't get hurt if the person happens to be making all of their experiences up. ( It's a sad world that we live in.)
However, i have 5 people that I talk to daily. 2 in Portuguese, 3 in spanish. Then I have 10-20 people that I talk to semi regularly. Skype isn't friendly for this. I don't get alerts on my phone and I never see messages. Therefore I use the app Tandem on I phone and/or Imessenger for Facebook. It tends to be better for me and my spontaneous conversations. lol. Anyways, I hope this helps.
