Well said, lilian! I think you're coming from a very pure place of love, and if you feel such emotions even towards people who have wronged you in the past, they are lucky to have you in their lives! Unfortunately, everyone is different. What might feel comfortable for you (greeting an ex, etc.) may feel awkward to others. Not that they're coming from a place of hate, but maybe they're just not as expressive of their feelings or their feelings must've been caught up in a whirlwind of emotions (should I greet her? maybe she still hates me? etc.)
All that matters is how you handle this situation yourself - and I commend you for being that kind of person. I really think that we need more people like you.
Have a nice day!
I think these are very positive thoughts, and if you can live by them, good. However, much depends on the way in which you parted from your former friends - sometimes being reminded of the past can be uncomfortable, don't you think? In that case, would it be a kindness?
Thank you for sharing such reflection. I have no answer for your question. Nevertheless, I believe that our EGO is one of the responsible for that. It is the same situation when one is quarreled and comes the question: who is going to take the first step in order to reconciliate?
For some people it comes with the age, as they become more mature. But I also believe that it has a lot to do with the capacity of loving others even when they disappoint you. As almost everything on life, it demands a lot of "training".