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Finding your own identity

It might be a non understandable topic for some people  ): 

Born in Canada with my parents being Japanese,   I was raised Japanese but all the friends I had were all Canadian so I mostly grew up in a Canadian environment and culture.

I love having Japanese as my background but sometimes I don't like being reminded that I'm Japanese because apparently I'm not acting like one. They constantly try to tell me that Japanese women or supposed to be that, this and blah but then I'm like, but I'm Canadian too. 

then of course more arguing... 

my point is, what makes you you? How did you know who you are?  I'm very confused about my identity ): 

thanks for reading!! 

Sep 24, 2016 5:39 PM
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I think what helps make you realise who you are are the people that influence you. As a mixed race person born in England, I understand how you feel. People may try to make you question yourself, by simply saying that you don't act or sound the way you look, and that can make you feel left out, or unappreciated. In my opinion, I think you should only listen to those who give you positive energy, and keep the people who embrace you for who you are close to you. Be proud of your heritage, but also be proud of where you're from, because both places and both cultures make you who you are. Don't let anyone bring you down because of that^^
September 24, 2016

I beg your pardon, but if you were born and spent all your life in an English speaking country, speaking English all the time outside home with your friends, at school and on the street, why on earth are you learning English now?

I can't speak for myself because my parents are Brazilian, but I think immigrant children usually have the 'identity' of the country they live in and kind of 'forget' their origin. One of my friends is half French and another is half Argentinian, they don't consider Spanish and French their native language and if someone asks them 'where are you from?', they will say: Brazil. 

September 24, 2016

I have heard about this several times, people that have more than one nacionalities as a center of the family.

You can do nothing about this, however, you can do about the other rest.

First of all: no matter who you are and what you do, people will always tell you what you have to do, believe, achieve, buy, study etc.

The list is long and you'll never be able to satisfied them all, so don't waste your time because your life belongs to you.

Second is that people (myself included) feel lost sometimes about their identities, so what you can do is shut all the noises around you, come back to your inner side and watch the things you like to do, what to feel and learn to come back to yourself day by day.

Unfortunately, we grow up absorving all the shitty things from our society and that's why people spend their lives on depression, self hate and doubts.

Try to learn how to meditate, it helps a lot and meet people that work with this.

Believe me: coming back to yourself is coming back to your first home.

I've been there....I will always be.

September 24, 2016
You are who you are confident and comfortable of being! No matter what you look like, your experiences made who you are today! You can't forgot or feel embarrassed of your roots though! Be proud of who you are, be authentic, that's what makes you, you. 
September 24, 2016
I had a friend who was Chinese. Well, she was my girlfriend at the time actually. Looking from the outside it seems like she struggled dealing with Chinese culture being thrown into her life (from outside of her family). The way they talked to her and treated her. She seemed to feel she had to deal with it. She also seemed to embrace it at the same time, I never could figure her out. I miss her- oh well.. time moves on. I hope shes doing alright.
October 1, 2016
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