Moira
How am I going to change? Society is not fair, my complaints will not change anything. Now life is very bad, I do not know how to change. Re start so easy, life is so hard. The dream is like a bubble, the desire is a nightmare. I hate this city, it is full of deceit and hypocrisy.
Oct 1, 2016 11:11 PM
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It makes me question why people complian a lot about life, it seems like that they are the only one with some problems.

So here's my little help based on your phrases:


"my complaints will not change anything"...
I agree with you, so what about your ACTIONS?

Have you ever heard about this quote? "be the change you want to see in the world"

"Now life is very bad...life is so hard"...
Look at all those people that are going through stuff harder than you (a kid who fights to stay alive, a kid with no food for almost 2 days, at least you have a device and internet to talk about your pity soul...), and be grateful for what you have today, you just need to switch the negative habit to the good one.

"I hate this city, it is full of deceit and hypocrisy." Don't forget that a place is made of people, in other words, you are part of the city, too and let me know if you never had a hypocrisy moment in your life.

When you are in a situation, you have 3 choices:
1- Change the situation
2 - Get out of the situation (in case you can't change it)
3 - Accept it as it is (in case the first two failed). But remember: from the moment you make the third choice you have no right to say you have no way out and no more bla bla bla.

Now, STOP THE VICTIM GAME and start to change. When you change, things (at least for you) will be changing. too.

Good Luck!!!

October 1, 2016
You sound very sad.  It's true  that life is not fair, but if you have family and friends who love you, it can be good.  If you feel sad, please talk to someone. I like your writing, and I think you can do wonderful things. Please take care of yourself.
October 1, 2016

Your problems are important because they are happening to you. Although I generally agree that people have it worse then we do, but we still have problems that hurt. 

If you don't like your city move. You can surpass your fear of leaving and being alone. I feel this is what has truly tied you to the city you hate. It is very scary to be alone, but you can make friends. Even the most introverted person, can make a friend, they just reject the hand that is stretched to them, because they want a better one.

If you say you can't leave because of money, then get a job and set a goal of working as much as you can to make enough to leave. 

Remember, there are very few situations in this world that we cannot change through our actions. Make a plan and find a way. :)

Good luck.

October 2, 2016
Start by writing out what is your dream, what it is you would like to aim for in a perfect word. Put words to it, tell us, and see if we who follow your posts here on italki can come up with ways to make it happen. It of course depends on what kind of dream it is. If your dream is for example flying in space it might be harder, but remember, that I had a university school peer, who went to university some classes above me, and he had the dream to become an astronaut and actually now he is!
October 3, 2016

There are many nice and inspiring comments above me so I don't think I should write anything more:)

I [email protected] for stepwise explaining the matter so nicely and Thanks @Aegis for a nice quote and a movie,maybe I should watch it:) 

Lastly,ending with some facts about life:)

Life is a Song---Sing it

Life is a Game---Play it

Life is a Challenge---Meet it

Life is a Dream---Realise it

Life is a Sacrifice---Offer it

Life is a Love---Enjoy it:)

October 3, 2016
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Moira
Language Skills
Chinese (Mandarin), English
Learning Language
English