When was the first time you really felt like a grown up? Was it suddenly?
I've almost never felt like a grown up. When I lived on my own and got a job in the city, I just felt like my boss at work was my new family, that's where the money came from and otherwise nothing had changed.
I think at a certain point, for a few years in my life, I felt like I was the only grown up. That everyone else had many personal flaws and were all ridiculously childish. Pursuing money like it was some game, at the expense of society. Things like that.
Now, I don't know, I think I'm like a child again. Maybe a little more lost.
I'm in my seventies. I'm still not sure when I will finally "feel like a grown-up," but it hasn't happened yet.
In my late twenties and early thirties, I was aware that (finally!) people were starting to see me as an adult. However, I didn't particularly feel like one.
There are many moments I realize I'm growing when I become realistic about the world, when my teenage dreams are gone, when I laugh at my naive, foolish amd ridiculous behaviors from my previous years. But really I have never felt like a grown up maybe because my parents and the elders still treat me like a child.
It takes a lot of pain to grow up but one day we all will be grown ups. Just timing.