Hi Peachey. I did not intend to make an assumption. I am from Brazil and I opened the discussion thinking about my culture. I agree with you about the better way to ask it and I will take care of it next time.
I think it's far more productive to ask if anyone has been in this situation, and how they managed it. I'd hate to make assumptions.
By the way, both my parents worked and I recall my great-grandmother looking after me and my brothers. We were not left alone.