Small talk. Yes or No?
For introverts, we are prone to engage strangers or a new language partner using small talk. I watched a lot of TedX videos which encourage people to avoid small talk and ask some personal questions. For example, "you, have a very interesting name, what's the story behind it?" 
As you may notice, you will know about someone much better by asking these type of questions.

I want to know what are other questions that you recommend us to use instead of those small talk to easily connect with strangers. 

Or if you disagree and you rather embrace small talk, how would you use it to make it interesting because somehow (for me) it eventually leads to awkward pauses.

Mar 23, 2017 2:48 PM
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What do you enjoy talking about? I'd start with that if I were you
March 23, 2017


The problem of small talk is that usually the answer is "yes", "not" or "maybe". 

When I know a language partner, for the fist time, I usually start talking about things about me and then the conversation goes on.

After a time, the unknown person become a friend and the subject comes naturally.

Try it, be happy and learn Englis!! :)

March 23, 2017
Well, since you are looking to speak with language partners, how about asking that person to talk about where he is from?  I personally love talking about my city. We have a fascinating culture and history.  I could go on for hours. It could lead to a really interesting conversation, comparing cultures, food, festivals, history.  That way you can get to know your partner on a deeper basis.  Our history and culture is a big part of the experiences that make us who we are. 
March 23, 2017

Try to use the small talk to find a common ground with the person you have a conversation with :) People like it when they find someone similar to them. For example, if he/she says '' I'm going to the gym today, I love it'' and you happen to like the gym too, excellent, share with them your passion and try to find as many similarities as you can.

If ,in this case, you don't like the gym try to be genuinely interested in why they like exercise. Engage in asking questions about their interests. People like talking about themselves. 

Hope that helps!

March 23, 2017

I am a typical introvert and there is the only way to make me more talkative and to involve me into conversation.

That is to bring up a topic to discuss i am really interested in and which can give me a lot of useful information.

I am not capable of talking about weather,  clothes (except speaking about it  in English - here it is impossible to stop me)))

But such a features of my character are just consequences of a fact of being introvert.

March 23, 2017
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