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Would you rather the general public think you are a horrible person but your family be very proud of you or... ...your family think you are a horrible person but the general public be very proud of you?
Mar 24, 2017 11:31 AM
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Here is an example so you can think about my question:

1) You make a lot of money gambling in casinos and that is certainly a good reason for your family to be proud of you. They know nothing about casinos, though.

However, the general public finds you a horrible person because they think you cheat at gambling, but there's no evidence. 

2) You make a lot of money because you are a drug dealer and your family knows about this. They find you a horrible person, but they won't blow the whistle to the police since you are a family member.

However, the general public is very proud of you because you throw lots of parties for them and also help many in financial trouble, not to mention that you have a myriad of friends. 

I hope it helps!

March 24, 2017

Please give us an example, will you? So that we can really get our teeth into this question! :)

Apart from that, I think the real heroes/heroines are the ones who do what they think is right, regardless of whether the general public or their families will approve - and they might very well both disapprove...

March 24, 2017
As long as it doesn't hurt others, including families, I want to be a person who I want to be.
March 24, 2017
@Susanne, I think not in the beginning because gambling is an addiction and I might be feeling happy winning lots of money, but maybe some day when I will be sitting alone, I may ask myself whether gambling is the only purpose of my life and money is the only thing I wish for!
March 26, 2017

Okay, this is where the cultural divide opens up and swallows the discussion, I'm afraid. Because not a single person in my family would be proud of me just because I made a lot of money (winning the Nobel prize might be a different kettle of fish, but how could that be controversial?). Actually, I don't think that many people view great wealth with anything like admiration in Germany. And I wish somebody would try to throw parties for the populace in Germany - it would certainly be interesting to see where that got them (probably to lots and lots of lawsuits because of noise and pollution),  but I'd bet my life that it would not be leading to anybody being proud of them. - Soccer! Being a successful goal-keeper would certainly turn me into a national hero, but that's not controversial, because my family wouldn't give a sh*t.

Sudeep, do you mean to say you'd lose your self-respect if you made a lot of money gambling? Why?

March 26, 2017
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