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Do you believe that people who give rude feedback do so because they're rude or trying to be helpful?
I read on another website that a learner, who wanted to study Russian, was put off by what he felt was a rude feedback from his native Russian teacher.

What makes feedback rude?
What has been your experience with it?
Feb 18, 2018 3:52 PM
Comments · 11
"...because they're rude or trying to be helpful?"

Alex, have you considered a possiblity of a rude guy trying to be helpful?:))

February 19, 2018
I actually don't understand why teachers should be expected to provide feedback for students in public at all. There's an art to feedback, and the proper place and timing are crucial factors.
February 18, 2018
I think Russians sometimes come across as a little abrupt in other countries. I think your friend was perhaps a little oversensitive!
February 18, 2018

We all have sensitive spots and these come out strongly when we try to learn something new. Mistakes are common and we feel like ignorant children. These can make us overly tender and take one single statement related to one specific point as evidence of our general stupidity, ineptness and ultimate failure. This is why I constantly say that praise is important in learning. Not enough praise will lead to unsure, timid learners that all the snazzy tech and hip teaching methods won't cure.

With that said....some cultures are very blunt, certain people within those cultures are even more blunt, and the normal phrasing in their native language doesn't help. Asking or saying things to  a student like:

Why do you make such stupid mistakes?

You are very dumb,. Why don't you learn to be less dumb?

I can't understand you. Your speaking is awful!  I do not want to talk to such a gibbering moron like you.

You sound retarded. Why can't you say this easy word right? What's wrong with you?

....are obviously hurtful, but still said to learners. I don't want to point fingers, but some cultures can get this blunt because that is how THEY were talked to in school. If it was OK for their teacher to ridicule them....why can't they ridicule you? That's just education! Toughen up!

For me, rude feedback is anything involving a negative word like stupid, dumb, idiot, moron etc and phases that indicate the teacher dislikes the student, or that the student is a hopeless failure of a human being with a low IQ. Some people have a hard time with languages, and some people are genuine morons....but they normally know that and apologize for it at the start.  

February 18, 2018
What somebody coming from a certain cultural background finds it rude another coming from a completely different background might find it only slightly more  direct than it is common. I think that teachers should be aware of these differences as they teach people from different culture. Be more considerate or tolerant could help in both sides. 
February 18, 2018
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