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How to correctly frequent female colleagues into work place during the #MeToo age?
With the advent of the #MeToo movement, honest male people become somehow perplexed on the suitable way to professionally deal with females colleagues, and it is even more complicated when they have to work closely in an isolated place with females co-workers.
The best solution could be to ask females colleagues what makes them comfortable when working with a man? This can avoid to get everyone in trouble?

Mar 11, 2018 9:30 PM
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Assuming you are heterosexual, ask yourself "Would I do/say what I'm about to do/say to a male coworker?", that's a good start. Another good idea is, if they ask you to knock something off, do knock it off. Of course, given that the MeToo movement is about sexual harassment, don't commit sexual harassment: don't fondle people, don't schedule meetings in your hotel room where you hang in your bathrobe, don't pretend to be interested in mentoring people just to get physical rewards (https://captainawkward.com/2016/04/13/852-853-goofus-and-gallant-attempt-mentoring-young-women/).

Go one step further, support women:

https://www.themarysue.com/so-im-a-dude-now-what-day-without-a-woman/

Fight sexism, racism, and other -ism by shooting down instances:

http://www.thagomizer.com/blog/2017/09/29/we-don-t-do-that-here.html

These people end up creating enormous problems for the company they work for, either because of lawsuits or damage to the brand or because someone who has no problems abusing people will also have no problems with syphoning money out of the company/stealing, so be sure that you are doing something in your best interest!

March 13, 2018
Tresor,
what would be a realistic situation, when a honest man and a honest lady, both having good intentions, get into trouble?

Also how an agreement may look like given that people do avoid making courtship, flirt and romantic interest explicit?

Can a boss distribute a questionary among his employees of opposite gender, with questions like
1."would you mind if I flirt with you?"
2. "would you mind if I try to seduce you?"
and so on? Would such a qeustionary be considered 'harassment'? Would the answers be honest?

And what to do about the oppote-gender co-worker who has already fell in love with that boss?
March 12, 2018

 

March 11, 2018
Some of Middle East countries separate female and male completely for religious reasons in almost all public places such as schools ,universities and working places and although of thses there are still problems and troubles
March 11, 2018
@Diana
I agree with you. But I still think that if men and women talk frankly to set boundaries in the workplace, it could help to avoid problem.
March 12, 2018
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