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Victimize. What do you think about people who always want to be victimized in situations? I don't agree with this behavior, but I don't know how to give advice for this persons.
Mar 15, 2018 4:00 AM
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I have found the concept of the drama triangle very useful to study in learning how to deal with people who take the victim role.  The important thing is to watch our own tendency to get drawn into the drama triangle---- people tend to get sucked into the triangle trying to be the rescuer.  When you are unwilling to continue, the ¨victim¨ acts like you are now the ¨persecutor.¨ 

In my personal life and professional life, I work hard to stay out of these roles.  The drama triangle is no fun and is awfully hard to get out of once you are drawn in.

March 15, 2018
Thanks, Susan, for linking to an article that would be of great benefit to many people…. I like how it goes on to explain practical ways of getting out of the triangle — rather than getting stuck switching roles. 

BTW, there are a lot of similar games that people get into. Escape is often as simple as asking oneself before saying something “Am I saying (or doing) this primarily to make myself feel good?” If the answer is “yes,” regardless of how “valuable” we may think our thoughts are, we should probably keep them to ourselves.
March 15, 2018
I jump on the occasion and bully them a bit (or a lot if I have the time). I'm always happy to help.
March 15, 2018

Thanks for the tip :) 

Yes. My cousin. She is not talking to me beacause I didn't make what she wanted. Sad. 

March 15, 2018
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