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Best way to overcome the fear of PUBLIC SPEAKING I often feel insecure while speaking in public.And that fear of making mistakes and nervousness make the whole situation even worse. Have you ever dealt with such situation? Any suggestion would be helpful. 
Mar 22, 2018 8:17 AM
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The only ways I can think of of overcoming the fear of public speaking are using any one of these three techniques, or some combination of them: 1) do like Irena said and be prepared, be over-prepared. That takes the jitters away; 2) do a lot of public speaking. The more we do anything, the less anxiety-producing it becomes (I used to get nervous in the 90s trying cases in court, but I do it now and I don’t get nervous at all. It’s just that I’ve done it so much it’s no big deal to me anymore), and finally 3) go to your doctor and get a prescription for anti-anxiety pills. I know everyone is not going to like that suggestion, but they do work, so if your doctor will give you some they will help a lot.  That’s about all you can do. 

March 24, 2018
I don't think there's a quick fix. I used to be terrified of public speaking. I don't think I'm fantastic at it now, but I'm a heck of a lot better than I used to be. What I used to do was to prepare extremely well. Practice the thing I was going to say ad nauseam. It didn't eliminate the jitters, but it did reduce them. After a number of positive (or at least non-awful) experiences, I gained some confidence, and so I no longer need to over-prepare as much. (I do need to prepare, obviously. But I don't need to rehearse what I'm going to say a dozen times.) 
March 23, 2018

Toastmasters International is an organization devoted to one thing and one thing alone: helping people become better at public speaking. I recommend them highly. They do have chapters in India, but I don't know if there are any close enough to you. Unfortunately the Toastmasters website, is down right now!

Toastmasters is basically a club. They have a structured set of lessons to work through. In a Toastmasters meeting, there are various activities that include having people give short speeches (e.g. 5 minutes) while other people watch them. The people are the "grammarian," who checks for English grammar and word usage; the "timer," who gives signals to let you know when your time is up; and, most important for me when I was in the club, the "ah counter," who counts the number of times you makes noises like "um" and "er" and "ah." It is all a peer group, learners helping learners. It is excellent.

March 23, 2018
My solution to this problem was practice. I began inviting my close friends and giving them presentations on whatever topic I could imagine. At first, it was lousy and they couldn't stop themselves from moсking and banting me, but they were friends and they always bought me a bottle of beer afterwards as a reward for my try. Then I switched to the bigger audience and could invite all of my relatives and friends of my friends and so on. Gradually I felt that I could do it more or less well. It has never been perfect perhaps because I am an introvert but at least it stopped frightened me to death after a while. If you feel too anxious or inviting friends is not an option for you for one reason or another you may try to start with something easier. Try to speak to yourself in front of the mirror then one to one with your best friend. Giving free language lessons here on italki with your webcam on is a good choice too. Try everything you can. I did it and I am sure you can do it too. It doesn't matter how slowly you go as long as you don't stop. 
March 22, 2018

Thanks, @Dan  Toastmasters is close to my residence so I will check that out soon.  

Thanks, @Irena. You are correct but what would you do if some overly smart people laugh at your silly grammar mistakes while you speak? I totally agree with you that after getting some positive response you could become more confident. Sometimes when people look at my face while I'm speaking it seems to me that they are eagerly waiting to make fun of me instead of correcting my mistake.   

March 24, 2018
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