I'm at level B2 but still can't make correct sentences!!! :( I'm a perfectionist and it's so hard for me to just go ahead and talk talk talk in German!!! If I try... I'm ruining the Akk, Dat and Gen... u know what I mean! Wait, let's not talk about Articles and using them with prepositions :( Please I need some perfectionists to tell me how did they go through this.... I can't just ignore that & saying saying whatever and knowing my German sucks xD
For your own happiness and peace of mind I’d give up the perfectionism. It’s not something to be proud of or to encourage in others and leads to a life of misery and never feeling ‘good enough’. Think about it logically - as non-native speakers we are never going to speak a language perfectly, nor should you have this as an aim.
Just speak, allow yourself to be imperfect and celebrate the steps you take along the way.The best advice I was given as a Czech learner was to initially ignore case/ adjective endings (there are 7) and concentrate on developing a basic fluency.
Enjoy the language and the very best of luck!
This discussion is a little bit odd to look at since it sems like Chris talked to ghost.
I'd thrive out my perfectionism by writing notebooks, tbh. I have tons of time to correct and recorrect until I send. But I still practice forming my sentences in my head. If I was smart I'd also talk to my self, nobody can hear me and still it is a practise. A good idea is also to find someone who corrects your sentences and points out the grammar to you. So it is at least just one person that "has to face your mistakes" and you have a one to one tutoring....if you are a perfectionist you will have a lot of questions so this will bring you on your way. These past months I watched some people doing their notebooks and it is just awesome to see their progress. I love it.
By the way, I also learned that people on B2 level German are still VERY chaotic in writing and speaking, Uhm, so you are just in level if you feel like you do. Might not help to say this, but it is what I see.
Amira: I’m sorry if you’ve heard it all before, but I do think it’s something you can gradually get rid of. As a young adult I felt under terrific pressure to succeed at sport as I wasn’t great at school. Much of the pressure was self- inflicted and it took me years to realise that actually my achievements were worthwhile.
Have you talked seriously to your professors/tutors at the University? Can they offer any additional language support.? You must be living in a city so are there groups who meet to chat informally in German? A local Goethe Institut? Maybe some of your classmates have a sister, a friend who could help?
Thanks so much Chris and SHL! I really appreciate your answers.
Chris, I always get that kind of "Amira just get rid of the perfectionism to live in peace!", I tried, it may work sometimes, in some situations, but I don't think I can get total rid of it! Also, I try to keep the positive side of it not the negative, not jumping off bridges, no!
I'm just struggling with German this way, cuz I need to start speaking it properly, it's my major at the university!
Though, I really appreciate what you both shared with me! Thanks so much!
Ha, ha. Good for you, Chris. See, you’re proving my point! My mom‘s friend is a native German speaker from Bamberg. She’s lived in the States for 60 years and, of course, she speaks fluent English. But, she has a heavy accent and she makes English grammar mistakes now and then, but nobody cares. She has a brother who’s 83 in Germany whom I visited, with his wife, for a few days last Summer. A delightful older gentleman and couple. My mom‘s friend‘s brother calls her from Germany regularly (she’s 81) but he always starts out every conversation, in German (since he doesn’t speak English) with „How’s Steven?“ She says, „How’s Steven? He’s fine. How about me! You never ask about me. just Steven !“ Then He always tells her „You know, Steven speaks better German than you do, Ruth.“ Ruth is really sweet too. I always get a kick out of that. I’ll have to visit him and his wife again this June when I’m over there.