What can you find about people's personalty at the first meeting? Is the first meeting enough for you to understand more than 50 percent of the personality? What will you notice and have you ever judged people by their appearance and short conversation in first meeting? How? 
Apr 10, 2018 5:59 PM
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Here's what I tend to take into account:

-Is the person self-assured (good posture, direct eye contact, relaxed expression, speaks without fumbling, not fidgeting) or do I detect shyness/anxiety?

-How invested is this person in appearances? Are they wearing the latest trends? Does it look like they've spent a lot of time doing their hair? Are their clothes revealing or modest? Are they designed to attract attention? Does this person seem to spend a lot of time and money on their appearance and looking nice/wealthy?

-When the person smiles, if he smiles, is it genuine? Is it a reflex? Is it a nervous appeal?

-How polite and gracious is the person? Does he have nice manners or is he abrupt and no-nonsense?

-What does the person talk about? The last football match or the book he's writing? Does he find ways to take the conversation to a deeper level or does it remain superficial? Does he show interest in the other person and try to draw them out? How does he respond to questions - with disinterested one-liners or with intriguing comments? Does he know how to ask ordinary questions in a fresh way?

I think I understand quite well who someone is at that given moment by looking at and briefly interacting with them. Some people are unpredictable and often have hidden layers you didn't expect. Others look interesting but are quite shallow, nothing more to know. Usually, I can sense whether this is a person who has a lot of substance or is superficial, at least at this moment in time.

April 11, 2018

'Admiration is a very shortlived passion, that immediately decays upon growing familiar with its object'.

(Addison, English novelist,1672-1719)

April 10, 2018
Definitely not. I know from working on group projects in college that you never truly understand someone until you are forced to rely on them for something. Some of the people I've found most interesting in my life are the ones that looked really boring when I first met them. They've got all the best secrets;)
April 10, 2018
Well, my opinion might be different from others here. But i believe you can't judge a person in just one meeting/sitting, You can't judge a person by his appearance only. I believe it takes about a month to know a person. But still we are unaware of the human nature. You don't know what's coming next.
April 10, 2018
Thanks all
April 11, 2018