Riho
How to connect with others  correct my English please.

How to connect with others  correct my English please.
If it is too  long and you can't post, a half part is fine.<o:p></o:p>

Thank you!<o:p></o:p>

Why people get hurt with others even they want to be with?<o:p></o:p>

One reason of this may be because people are so different but we still expect that person should be the same even we don’t notice our own these expectations. When we need to face what we don’t expect, we are surprised and get hurt. 
And even we try to understand using communications, still it may be hard to feel the same thing the same way together sometimes. It happens even we understand why they act like this.<o:p></o:p>

 One of my friends, who have lived in France for 30 years, said she still feels uncomfortable when she gets flat refusal by French people even though she understands this is only the matter of culture difference, they don’t treat her wrong, don’t have any bad feelings against her. But still, she feels she is alone and denied.

Also I think when French came Japan and have lived for years, they may still feel uncomfortable with our attitudes are too vague and feel they were not treated frankly by Japanese.<o:p></o:p>

 I am not talking about culture difference here, what I am trying to asking you is if it is not happening between you and your precious person. Isn’t it only the difference but you got hurt because you think you are not loved? Isn’t it only the difference but you think your interests are denied and feel like you are nothing to that person? How could you heal? And How can you be with that person? <o:p></o:p>

It may be good questions to change your life to understand others.<o:p></o:p>

Apr 27, 2018 2:05 AM
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Hi, Riho! :)
It's a good question, especially for people who have a low self-esteem. You asked the question by quite correct words: 
"you got hurt, because you think"

I mean, many people live just with their own expectations, not looking at the reality they live in. One very smart, and I can even say wise man, said - all our expectations are not real, it's only our imagination. When we get hurt for the reason of something that we were expecting, but it didn't perform, we hurt only ourselves. It's not about other people, it's about us. If you have an expectation, okay, but it's only yours. When some outcome doesn't answer your expectation, nobody hurts you, but you hurt yourself. This is your own fake world you have created far away from the reality. 

To break such stereotype and not to feel denied, you should talk to people, because what they feel to you - it's real. This can be the best proof, that you have been appreciated by the people. A person, who has never talked to others, can't know that he or she has been valued :1


April 27, 2018

Thank you very much!


April 27, 2018
Hi, Antonio,
Thank you very much for your comment.^^
 It is nice to hear another opinion.
April 27, 2018

It These may be good questions to that could change your life to by understanding others.


* Note: in written English, we never start a sentence with 'but' or 'because'.  It's acceptable in spoken English though.

April 27, 2018

Isn’t it only Is the difference but only because you got hurt because you thinking you are not loved? Isn’t it only Is the difference but only because you think your interests are denied and you feel like you are nothing to that person? How could you heal? And how can could you be with that person.

April 27, 2018
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Riho
Language Skills
English, Japanese
Learning Language
English