Jeannie
What will you do if someone stood you up? I've known a new friend from school and she dates me to have dinner together last weekend. Yet we haven't decided the place and time to meet up. I text her on Saturday and she never replies. I worried if anything happens to her so I tried to call her and she didn't answer whatsoever. However,  I happened to see that she replied a facebook comment a couple minutes ago. And I was pissed off and I didn't expose her. So the next day, she apologized to me and told me that she forgot to bring her phone along. This wasn't the first time that she stood me up. What would you do if she were your friend or someone stand you up?
May 18, 2018 10:54 AM
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For me, it depends on how much I care about her as a friend.  If I do not care very much, I would probably opt to avoid conflict and just avoid making any plans with her-- basically distance and end the friendship that way, without drama or conflict.   If she means more to me than that, the next time we made plans I would share with her that I although I have forgiven her I have not forgotten the times I have been disappointed by her and that I need reliable friends (basically warn her that our friendship is on shaky ground and could be destroyed if she is not more conscientious than she has been.) 

I believe that you teach others how they can treat you-- if you allow them to treat you badly and do not make it clear that what they are doing is a problem, they will continue doing it.  I want to have friends who are basically conscientious and reliable.  If the person is too far from that, I either cut off or at least not rely on them much and try to make friends with healthier, more responsible people.   

May 18, 2018
If it is not the first time she broke her promises, then she seems not to be a nice/ reliable friend. I will not spend my time to care about her.
May 18, 2018
Thanks for your opinions Susan and Tuyet =) 
May 19, 2018