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How to find a love?

Hi, guys. With the technology of these days is very common people use apps like Tinder to find a person to have some relationship, isn't it? So what do you think about it? Using apps like Tinder, is it a good way to find a love? Have you ever tried to use Tinder or another app to find a girlfriend or a boyfriend? If you tried, How was your experience? And Which is the best way to find a love?

So recently I found out that two friends of mine found your boyfriends through Tinder, and I was surprised. Because to find someone to have a relationship on this way is very strange for me. When the people go to Tinder and see your photos and get interested on you, I feel it is like getting interested in a product on the supermarket's shelf. And how can I get interested on someone only by your photos and by what they say about themselves, whithout know if it's true or not? I don't know, maybe I got it wrong. But it is strange for me. And I don't know a best way to find someone. But I think that the appearance and what you see on the social networks are not the only things that you have to be attentive. 

Thanks for read, guys. And feel free to correct my English. :D


May 22, 2019 2:43 PM
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I am from an older generation that grew up without the Internet. People were finding their soulmates in places of their interests like hobby clubs, work, and studies(Universities).

    But time is changed, view on different subjects is changed too. I am married and I am not interested in using applications like Tinder, but for me, it sounds like an option. I know that a lot of young people meet on the Internet, and some of them succeeded to marry.

    I think that many people are disappointed that not every try in such application is working. Does everyone on the street who you like will go out with you? It is mutual. I guess, the same on the dating sites.

    I also think that people who try to use this site(italki) for dating just are children, because most learners here are for studies and not for dating, and looking for a person who lives in thousands of kilometers from you is a stupid idea.   

    Of course, there are cases here that people are married too, but the probability of this is very low, and most people who are looking for a soulmate here are wasting their time and time others people.

On applications like Tinder people can find a person who lives close to them that they have the possibility to meet each other and have a date.

May 22, 2019

What is love?
Baby don't hurt me
Don't hurt me
No more.

From the Haddaway's song. 

May 22, 2019

<a ng-if="discu.creator_obj.allow_profile" ui-sref="user({id:discu.creator_obj.id})" href="https://www.italki.com/user/3720634" class="" style="background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">ペレイラ</a>, yes, it feels weird for me each time someone here reiterates that people should search for romantic partners on dating sites.

I know no one who would find her husband or his wife there:) Usually poeple meet each other in universities, like my parents.
I know a couple who met each other in a video-game. I know two such couples, one of them got married and are raising kids.
Italki is not very different.

Once I though that in future there maybe will be an AI, who will quickly find the ideal match for you. A million ideal matches, out of 4 billoon women. And I did NOT like that at all. 

I imagined a story about a religious sect who exiled itself to another planet and, as a part of their beliefs intentionally does everything in "subobtimal", "chaotic" and "wrong" way — being in opposition to that AI who would chose everything "optimal" for you knows what is the best for you.

When I told that this future scares me to a guy who is working in a company owning one of "big" Internet search engines, he say they do have such a machine in their company. For fun. But they don't want to put it on the market.
When his colleaugue was playing with it and asked it to find the perfect match for him, the program found....
....his ex-wife:)) 

In reality it just finds people with _very similar interests_. This is why ex-wife. When the guy who told the story used it himself and choose "any gender" option it offered a guy whom he meets often on scientific conferences.

May 22, 2019
Stop looking.  You don‘t find love, it finds you.
May 22, 2019
Why is everyone looking for romantic love so persistently these days? I think it should occur naturally and spontaneously, not through apps or purposefully looking for a partner, but that's just my opinion
May 22, 2019
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