Why are boundaries important in relationships?
I realized the importance of setting boundaries in relationships, whether it is about work or personal. When a person gets too comfortable that is when s*** happens. If you allow your partner, for example to always be late on your date, the end result is he will probably be late on dates. If you allow your friends to always borrow money from you, they will end up borrowing money all the time. There are times when we must convey or communicate to them that it’s not always okay. I saw a lot of friendships destroyed because they forgot to set boundaries. When friends start to make your romantic life an issue or when friends give unsolicited advice. I think that even with family, friends and business partners, healthy boundaries must be set to avoid conflicts. It’s okay to tell family members, “hey guys can we chip in so that we can pay the rent?” Instead of paying it all by yourself and Then, complaints will start pouring in.
I had a friend who was really reserved and private and so I never asked about her romantic life. She likes it that way, when we are together, we never talk about our private lives. I had friends who never want to be tagged in our photos together because their Social media accounts are only used for work. I had friends who never want to be asked about particular questions unless they initiate it. They were clear with some boundaries at the onset and I think it’s great because you can respect their personal space. Once you go beyond that, oh my..........arguments happen. Even with husband and wife, especially those who work together.
It is the same concept that I apply in my job as a teacher. No matter how close I am to a student, I always tell them that it is not okay to reschedule after 24 hours or at least don't do it three times in a row. If you set healthy boundaries your relationship, as a student or a business partner will go further. If you do not communicate your boundaries, you will end up hating each other. As a result, you will lose him/her as a friend and a business partner.
I would like to add the definition of boundaries in this discussion.
Personal boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone passes those limits.Thanks @Kai E (Wikipedia definition)