I'm close to both of them. We have different relationships, and there are different areas where closeness is different. My father and I struggle with certain health conditions; my mother cannot understand some of these issues. Yet, because I was brought up by my mother and grandmother, there are things that my father will never quite understand.
They both displayed love to me and did things for me. Both sacrificed greatly for me.
I have one simple rule for both of them: they are not allowed to die.