Earlier I wrote how love can be learned. Here is how I know that love can be learned.
What Joe Gave Me
I remember how Joe loved me.
He didn't try to replace my father.
This allowed me to have a relationship that was unconditional.
That allowed me to love him freely.
He wanted to be my friend.
He knew I had a father.
So, he decided to be my friend.
Because he was my friend, we became so much more than friends.
That allowed him to become my family.
I started to love him.
The greatest gift he gave me was this friendship.
This friendship allows me to remember him fondly.
I can remember the good times.
I remember the person he was.
God decided to change his heart.
God used Joe to make me a better person.
I knew how to love my family,
But really loving others was incomprehensible to me.
Because I loved Joe, I learned how to love others.
I learned how to love others the way they are.
God gave me Joe because God knew I had to love others.
Joe gave me the joy of loving others.
Joe didn't start out as a friend. He was the enemy. He was taking someone away from me that I loved. This automatically made him the enemy, based upon previous events in my life.
Anything he did was going to be wrong, and just because he was the one doing it. One day I realized I was bitter.
I let go of bitterness and let the relationship develop. I discovered how to love others. And there is joy in loving others.
Again, love is so much more than physical attraction. There's a word for just the physical attraction: Lust
And I choose to progress beyond lust and accept love for all it encompasses.