Does the approval/disapproval of family members really matter in marriage?
I had an interesting talk with my aunt yesterday, and she was verbalizing her dislike of my nephew’s new girlfriend. My aunt is known for being absolutely blunt. “I really do not like her, she is not good enough for my favorite grandson, he could do better, I really wish they would break up.” She uttered these words while we were eating breakfast so you could just imagine the awkwardness.
As a listener, it was interesting to hear and I realized the importance of gaining the approval of family members before getting married. She went on by saying,” If he marries that girl, he can say goodbye to his inheritance.” I was like,"OH MY." The elders in my family do not know how to "sugarcoat"things so I think while eating my breakfast, I was chewing my food slower than usual while listening.
My nephew is her favorite grandson, so I would understand why she expressed her disapproval. The phrase,” He could do better struck me the most.”
My family is composed of opinionated women, so just in case that girl really marries my nephew, I already feel sorry for her. It’s not me who disapproves but the matriarchs of the family.
I think that the approval of the family is really important and although it’s not always possible to gain it. It would be extremely useful to at least try. The girl went to our house during the quarantine period wearing her pajamas so she created quite an impression. There are a lot of well-dressed women in our family so when a visitor goes to our house looking like she just woke up, it creates a really bad impression.
She did not bother to say HI, even as a visitor nor did she try to gain our respect. My aunt was really upset not just of her background, but also of her manners. So, I realized how complicated marriage is. It would be interesting to hear from the “married members” of the community.
Sorry, my topics are about love lately. I am not in love or something. I’ll create another discussions later. I am just really interested in “love.”