Florian K.
Professional Teacher
"Fall in love with the person,Not their money.”
 I would like to share an interesting conversation I had with a friend. My friend is a CEO but due to the current pandemic, his business like everyone else is not doing well. During our conversation, I asked him about what he learned from his marriage. He quipped, “I learned that my wife doesn't love me but loves my money”. There was silence and I asked him why he thinks that way. He said that they are always arguing about money. It’s a sad realization and I know that it takes a lot of courage to say something like that truthfully.

        Sometimes I wonder why rich people often marry the rich. It is the same case in my country, where elite businessmen just date women in their circle. Then sometimes, I would understand when I hear stories about women who marry for money. I know that the situation is different for every person and as a financially independent woman, I try to comprehend these kinds of situations. I know some rich men who never flaunt their wealth to get women because I think that they want others to see who they are as a person and not what they have. Just imagine if someone will measure your worth as a person based on your net worth? It's like a Business transaction, not marriage, not romance.That is why some of them are quite selective with friends and romantic relationships. I know that money is important in marriage and that sometimes it is a source of arguments but if there is one thing that I learned from my conversation with that friend, “I learned that even if money is important, never marry someone for money”.

   In these modern times of materialism,how important is a person’s financial capacity in choosing him or her as a marriage partner? (These goes for both men and women)
Would you marry someone for money, even if you do not love him/her?
May 22, 2020 11:12 AM
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Recently I came up with five core values for me:


Service - I will serve others in ways that I am able to do so
Meekness - In all things I do, I will remain humble
Authority - I will respect those in charge and follow the rules to the best of my ability
Relationships - I will invest in others to form relationships that matter
Trust - I will trust that things will work out even if I am not in control of the situation

Your question corresponds to my "R" value. Marrying for money does not fit well within this value.
May 23, 2020
It's a good question! Truth is, sometimes we lie to ourselves, or at least I do....
So in this case it'd be something like, "I think I love him/her at some level. I'm not attracted to him/her that much, but I love spending time with this person and how he/she makes me feel..."
But everyone knows it's the money that counts...so, I don't know.
My point is, I say: I wouldn't marry for money, but maybe under the right circumtances I would have done something like that....

Does that make any sense?

May 22, 2020
I would not marry for money, but I would not marry someone who is not financially independent.
He does not have to be super rich, but has to know how to handle money to support himself responsibly.

Your post reminded me of a book I read a while ago, "If You're in My Office, It's Already Too Late: A Divorce Lawyer's Guide to Staying Together" by James J. Sexton.
He has some good insights into marriage as a divorce lawyer.

May 23, 2020
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Florian K.
Language Skills
Chinese (Mandarin), English, Filipino (Tagalog), Finnish, Other
Learning Language
Chinese (Mandarin), Finnish, Other