Teacher Emi
Have you ever had to choose sides because two of your friends broke up? Choosing Sides... When two of your friends break up, it can be hard to remain close with both of them. Instead of hanging out with them as a couple, you have to find time to be with each of them separately. And if the break up was a painful one, you might have to listen to both sides complain about the other person.
Jan 17, 2012 2:29 AM
Comments · 5

I just had the same situation 2 years back.Well the best way to handle this stuation is to act as if nothing happened.And don't sympathize any of such friends beyond a limit - for this could be uneven for the other.


Yes they would complain - but you should try defend the other person in front of the one who is complaining and vice-versa.And try vouching for their relationship so that you aren't just a 'bitter' observer (helps to still strenghten your friendship)

January 26, 2012


So the smart move would be cheat on both sides, telling each of them you think the other one is wrong, and wish to God they'd never make up, or play dirty to prevent that possibility from ever happening.

Or at least you could take a bet on one, less risky. And as long as you are good, that loser wouldn't embarrass himself making it up with either of you.

January 25, 2012
You can only listen to both of them and see them separately. Try not to judge. Very hard if both of them are in your friendship group.
January 17, 2012
It really is hard to stay neutral, isn't it? Then they're both mad at you when they make up and are friends again.
January 17, 2012
Dear Mary, this is all so very understandable ans hurtfull for me, since I`m nearly in the same situation. I broke apart with my boyfriend, because he was dating another girl. Now I practically have no chance to meet with our common friends and he started introducing her to our common friends to spend time together. I would like to give YOU some advice in this situation. Breaking up is always a very hurtful process for all sides. So don`t make it worse by ignoring any of your friends. Meet with them, speak with them, pay extra attention to the friend.Show that you stay friends irregardless of his or her former relations. That he or she deserves understanding, friendship,tenderness and love. The necessity of listening to complains is the minimum you might and have to do to help the person in this awkward situation. If you wish to remain a friend,you should do your best to help and not to offend or reprimand. The one has already suffered enough without it. Best regards, Helene.
January 17, 2012
Teacher Emi
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