@enjoy_life - I agree with much of what you said but I have to disagree with your conclusion. We might do things very like others do them it is true but you have surely heard that love is blind. This doesn't mean that you have no eyes or that you choose to ignore negative things you see........ No. It means that to the other person, to your partner, to your lover you are special and unique and whatever they do, because they do it for you and for no other, is special and unique. And that is why when trust is lost, like Annie said, love is lost. Because this person who made you feel special, made you feel like the only one......... has told you that you are like everyone else. And that is the beginning of the end.
But until that happens - savour the flavour of two into one. You know it feels good. :))
For example, I used to think I was the ultimate best lover (yes it's true!<img title="Tongue Out" src="http://www.italki.com/Scripts/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-tongue-out.gif" alt="Tongue Out" border="0" />) until I read about other's stories, using <em>my</em> methods. I thought I was the <em>only one</em> to do certain things, think and feel a certain way---and then I realized a lot about how humans are very similar. I thought I was <em>the only</em> one to love another like I was doing. But to read that someone else could love like me, it felt degrading. Like I am nothing but a means of reproducing and passing on the family name...Like I am not special, like I thought I was. So reading other's personal experience stories woke me up and stopped me from making some pretty serious decisions. Those stories should be the one's in the lover's manual. We all like to think we're special, unique from each other but....:)
A manual, like a guide for two lovers to follow. I wouldn't write one though I would suggest that someone write this manual with other couple's relationship experience stories. Advice is given from experience. Advice is usually about what went wrong and what to avoid. I learned how to not repeat others' mistakes by reading the after effect of their decisions. I'd like to read a manual that included the typical experience stories followed by suggested advice to follow. Before any personal-experience, it seems like you're the only one who's going through a certain situation. But if you had the chance or took the chance to read about certain things, like read the words from a lover's manual as see that someone has (of course) lived what you are living, then you can know more about yourself and determine what to avoid/ what's your next decision.
Great, @Nabeel. You and me are a pioneers. Thanks.
I posted a similar entry also in notebook. If you want put your ideas also there, change, add you will be always welcome :)