Well, dear, I am trying to teach you. Truk Alp's response to you is somthing that you need to be very careful about. When you reveal your need to someone who is like this, you give them an opportunity to manipulate you.
Only reveal your needs to your family or very close friends. Not all people will try to manipulate you through your needs, not everyone is like this. But the people who are get such negative power from it that it is very hard for them to stop, even if they are humiliating themselves.
Sorry to be the one to write this, Wen, you seem like such a sweet person.