sara
why do I suck at starting a conversation with new people?

I get the feeling that I am imposing myself or something.........I am a private person trying to be open and daring..........Gonna begin by saying this..............HELL WITH PRIVACY

Jul 3, 2014 10:53 PM
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I think i face the same problem...mostly i don't think I'm shy or anything in fact I'm pretty easy to talk to and I'm very open to anyone but i think the main problem is that people don't wait around or stick to a few conversations at one time, they tend to jump between conversations and seek new ones without properly ending the previous one or putting out one before starting another with a different person thereby making what could have been a good/productive dialogue between two people end miserably...but i also think that a good dialogue can't be initiated when or if most of the talking is only being done by one party, where the other party just drags it along with two or three words every once in a while, yea one party has to first start the conversation but in other for it to continue and be productive both parties need to contribute/participate almost equally in it....so if you can't hold a conversation and nevertheless still want the conversation but just don't seem to know what to say, it might not be a problem coming from you but from the other person....A Conversation/Dialogue is more like a "Relationship" and if it isn't wanted, nursed and cared for by both parties it just won't go on, at some point sooner or later it would eventually break up. The same thing applies to a conversation/dialogue.

July 4, 2014

If you feel more confortable reading and you are shy, you can find an English or French speaker here and trade reading languages together out loud on skype. That way you can maybe say little things, like "Hi" and I will be starting on page 3" etc. You will get used to speaking the new language out loud with a native speaker of that language without having come up with things to say. 

July 4, 2014

You're not the only one who feels that way.

The bright side is shy better than shameless.

In the end, time heals everything.

July 4, 2014

well..........although I got bored of reading and wanted to speak the language I think I am better off reading...........do you have any recommendations?

July 3, 2014

  Sara:

 

 There are people who had not  been trained in some social skills.

I had the same problem,  but I learned a few   specific  techniques.

July 3, 2014