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Do people often misunderstand you?

I hate it! I swear, but i always , alllllways got misunterstood. Sometimes just some simple things, i say it with no second indication,people just get mad and put me in a state of confusion. What do you think is the real problem? Is it me being too frank ?

Dec 15, 2014 2:47 PM
Comments · 19

  Several things could be the cause of your difficulty.

 

  (a)   Not being diplomatic or reserved in your comments to others.

 

   (b)   Perhaps you are offering an opinion  when none was solicited.

 

      (c) Perhaps you are offering  an opinion when you might have declined offering an opinion.

 

          (d) Perhaps the issue involves a problem that appears sometimes when a person such as you or I,  suppose  that other people "understand" our intention, when in fact, they have no idea  what our intention is. 

 

     For example,  it would be an error to presuppose  that all others know that our words are

not intended to wound them.  In fact,  many people do suppose that all other   people are intending to wound them.

   

   The  story of "The Nonconformist Sparrow"  would apply. 

December 15, 2014

You are saying these things with no 'second THOUGHT'  not 'indication.

 

Well, it's time to think before you speak!

 

Great advice! I just wish I would listen to my own words !!!

December 15, 2014

I hate what Bruce has to say, but it's true. Lol, I guess that's just another case of the truth causing pain! I'm on the verge of losing a friend over the truth. We are constantly arguing over something. I quote scientific evidence and studies and their obvious conclusions, and he gets defensive and makes up arguments that have no validity. It's impossible to win such an argument; both of us are set in our opinions. But he always starts it by attacking my viewpoint, and my ego requires me to answer with the truth.  

December 17, 2014

Thank you so much again, Bruce. I wont tell those serious truths ^_^....You let me see the reason of the problem that keeps happening to me, you did help me here. Wish all happiness to you ~ 

December 16, 2014

Yeah, i guess some of the people here also understand me but dont like the way i say things. We need to keep some words on our own, i guess, as Bruce said. Now i see why they say silence is gold. Sometimes we do need pieces of those gold, huh? ^_^ I believe there are people out there who can understand and accept the way we say things. Best luck to you, Oscar~

December 16, 2014
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