John Stark
How to educate a very naughty child.

I believe that many people will neglect baby's crying(they are often very fine without hunger. ) But how to deal with a child at the age of 3. Actually, it is my nephew. He always demands anything he wants, if it doesn't meet his request, he just crys like a river and screams loud. He knows something but not everything, so he always crys when he comes up with riding over someone with his toy bus. First, you cannot make it happen. Then, it becomes worse when you educate him. I do not approve to threaten him, but it is not good that just let him cry here.

Could you give me some practical advice? I think it is very important, because my nephew gets worse on this bad way. He cannot recoganize what is right or not, but only ask for things he wants with crying and screaming. I do not know which way influences him more, genetic or environmenal fact. Please help me and welcome your education method, thanks very much.

Dec 21, 2014 2:26 PM
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@Bobcat77 - Actually, spanking isn't child abuse in the US. It's prohibited in schools in some states, but not in the home. As far as I know, spanking is legal in China everywhere. So unless you are trying to apply your morals to the rest of the world, you are wrong.

 

I encourage the OP to spank his children as often as necessary. I would avoid spanking other peoples' children though. Even though some really, really deserve it, parents are often out of touch with reality, and think the rest of the world is required to put up with their poorly behaved children. They will protect them, regardless of whether or not the kid deserves it. 

December 23, 2014

@Dorothy ... I don't believe that momentarily ignoring a child during his/her tantrum is child abuse.  Honestly, there had been some few times when I had to get out of my daughter's way while she vented her anger.  I didn't mind so much that she broke easily replaceable objects.  However, on some few occasions, I've had to force her to go to her room so that she would stop kicking and stop punching at me; and also I've had to put her somewhere away from me so that she wouldn't be able to keep throwing objects at me.

@Aegis ... Spanking is child abuse.  I've been able to effectively use time-outs instead of corporal punishment as a discipline technique for my daughter or nephew. 

@John ... When you've decided to become a parent, then I would highly recommend that you read books written by Dr. Benjamin Spock, who provides expert advice to parents on how they should care for their children.  According to Wikipedia, "Spock was the first pediatrician to study psychoanalysis to try to understand children's needs and family dynamics. His ideas about childcare influenced several generations of parents to be more flexible and affectionate with their children, and to treat them as individuals."

December 22, 2014

A child learns quickly, especially at this age. He must have noticed that by crying, he gets everything he wants.

 

We can discipline a child by depriving him for a few hours or days or even a week of something he attaches much.

 

He will understand the lesson and will become obedient.

 

Good luck.

December 21, 2014
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John Stark
Language Skills
Chinese (Mandarin), English
Learning Language
English