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It may be an old and dull topic, however I am interested in it. 
Why a person can be/become lonely? If there is any cure to overcome it? And if you're interested - what are your thoughts about this topic? In general. 

Jan 3, 2015 6:29 PM
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Thomas Wolfe, writing in "God's Lonely Man" (undated as an essay) Excerpt:

"The whole conviction of my life now rests upon the belief that loneliness, far from being a rare and curious phenomenon, peculiar to myself and to a few other solitary men, is the central and inevitable fact of human existence. When we examine the moments, acts, and statements of all kinds of people -- not only the grief and ecstasy of the greatest poets, but also the huge unhappiness of the average soul…we find, I think, that they are all suffering from the same thing. The final cause of their complaint is loneliness." ------Thomas Wolfe --see @:



January 3, 2015

It is hard thing to explain in general what a loneliness is. I think it is a state of mind and in particular cases it means different things to different people. People can experience loneliness for many reasons and this state can be caused by many circumstances (it could be hard to find and describe those). Some people can feel lonely and experience loneliness even when they have friends, family etc. Others can experience - lets say - happiness without having any friends, family and so on. Loneliness in itself does not have to be something wrong. I think we should be able to see difference between some kind of despair (brokenheartedness?) and loneliness. In my opinion the first one is much worst than the second one.


What I've found is this:
Seems helpful.

January 3, 2015

I believe us humans have a core commonality.  To love and be loved.  It's a sense if belonging, connection and reaffirms that there is meaning. 


I also believe there are different levels of loneliness.  Some relates to family, friends, work or a lover but the cure is in the pain.  The pain that exists within ourself to define all the questions we have when we are alone in our mind.  "Why" becomes the dominant questions to the questions.  


It's a tough journey but neccessary to unearth what pains one's mind, heart, soul etc.  I tell people, never rush people on this journey to "be happy" or just come out of it because the wells of emotions and feelings run deep.


What do you think Yana?


January 3, 2015
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