Hello my friends. I keep asking myself this question and I want to know that if a country or society can affect people's goals or not? As for me, I really want to go to the united states and study there and then probably find a job and live there. But the question is that I don't know if I was there, I had the same goals or not? I mean study in my country (united states) and then looking for a job after that and live in my own country. What do you think about it? It would be great if you let me know about your opinions.
In no absolute way! Unfortunately we are taught from a very young age all kinds of knowledge, but we are not taught to trust ourselves. Nowadays believing in yourself and having a clear idea of what you want might be branded by many as arrogant! I've travelled a lot, and country can't in any way change or dictate your goals, it can definitely influence your believe system (e.g. work hard, make sacrifices, except your faith, day dreaming is a waste of time, get a job with a retirement plan, etc...) but those belief systems are far from invincible. There will always be people to remind you that your dreams are fairy tales, something made up so everyone else stops dreaming. But the only way to achieve your goals is to dream of what you want, to put an expiration date to your dream, and to then plan to achieve it. You can do very well in the future! It all depends on what you believe. The first thing you need to do is to be aware that the country isn't a factor, a lot of people get stuck in their comfort zone and tell you that you can't do this, that, the other, because they couldn't do it! Many people don't even know their in a comfort zone, (e.g. being stuck in traffic, settling for a partner because they think their running out of time, their routines, attitudes, habits, skills, knowledge, behavior, even their job and friends are part of their comfort zone) Now around your comfort zone is your learning zone! This is the area you need to expand your world view, and you do, while learning new languages, traveling to other countries, having new experiences and enriching your points of view, modifying your habits, getting to know other cultures...
This is wear we observe, experiment, compare, enjoy and learn. Their are people who are passionate about this and achieve their goals, but for others this is scary and they only move within their comfort zone since leaving it for them it's considered dangerous! And when people know you have goals, my God, be ready for these damaging comments, (i.e. be careful, serious things could happen, the world will end for you, and if it's terrible, what if something goes wrong) BUT WHAT IF YOU GET IT RIGHT! Dude! Their is so much I could talk about, but l know you get the picture... Countries don't change the people, the people change countries. So remember change is good and it's called development. To move forward towards your goals, you will have to get your motivation to emerge victorious against your fears, you well have to work on your emotional tensions leaving your comfort zone, and if your wondering how to do it? Believe in yourself, you are the star of your own life, what ever you don't decide others well decide for you (your country, boss, spouse, etc.) And lastly the goal isn't the prize it's what your going to do with your goal that matters!
Jamille, I know how sad it is because in my country the situation is the same. A normal person can work from 7 a.m to 9 p.m just to put the food on the table. Nothing more, nothing less. That's really depressing and I hope one day the world will change in another way that every single person can have a normal human rights...
Living in a third world country (like the Philippines) your goal is to usually have enough to make ends meet and to survive the day to day life like feeding yourself and maybe your kids. Whatever you want to do like travel the world, experience skydiving etc those things are usually not in common person's goal out here. I always wonder how the people from richer countries can travel so much or pursue the hobbies that they like without worrying about how much it's going to cost them.
Hello Silence, I saw all the comments here and some points I have to agree with Damien too.
I'm from Brazil and here is complicated... for example If you want to have a good social position, first you have to study and study hard, speak 2-3 languages, have a college and post graduation degree, have experience, to get let's say a comfort life, but many of the brazilians here are in the comfort zone, they are not give a damn to study or to work.
The goverment here sadly incentivates the people to have everything in the hands, like some social programs that difficults everything. I'm one of the examples of people that is trying to achieve some dreams, I have studied a lot, I'm working a lot also to get a better future for my family, but it is hard man.
If I had the chance, for sure I leave Brazil to go to another Country, maybe Canada or US, but I have some personal reasons that I cannot go for now, but in the future I'll try.
Why I'm saying that? Well, for example if you work here and receive about 2500 dollars, it is really hard to have a comfort life in Brazil, but in US you can. Here the price of everything is really expensive, we have a percentage of taxes here, like 60% of the cost of the things to have an idea.
Even the rest of the things like, you don't have security, you don't have public health, you don't have public education, so here you have a little more dificulties than living in US or Europe for example.