Any cultural shock in this case? One of my friends workers for an institute as an administrative officer. They offer some scholarships to PHD students across the country. One day , during the meeting of PhD students, one Hungarian boy kept telling happily about his upcoming wedding ceremony. In Chinese mindset, it's not polite if you do nothing when you are told by someone that he is getting married. This friend also wished they showed friendship within this team. So she asked the organizer for some budget. The organizer gave AUD30, with which she bought a card and a bottle of red wine. As all the team members writing something on the card, the Chinese girl found an excuse to ask him out tin order to surprise him when he came back. The Hungarian boy was excited about his own wedding until he came back and got the gift. He remained quiet and did not even say Bye to her, needless a Thank you. What was wrong. She felt lost and hurt. :(Well, I reckon there was a misunderstanding from Troy, or I did not express properly. The girl did not ask him out for a date or something. She just wanted him to leave the team for a while, so the others could write their best wishes on the card. :)