In Arabic we say: If your wife is so beautiful, then she is not just yours! I really appreciate you searching for answers for your situation, specially with the sarcastic replies you've got so far! that clearly show they are jelous!!! As a man, who knows the male environment/mentality/nature very well, eastern & western, the fact is: men ENJOY looking at pretty women, not only the face, but also EVERY part of the body!!! even more than this....their imagination of sexual fantasies starts! in the same time, they would behave so polite & gentel. Regarding relatives staring at you, this is not strange, with the western culture, that made sex the core of life! unfortunately, we hear a lot about men who raped their relatives...be careful! regarding love ...it is not easy to know ...please give me some time to have an answer. What I can advise you to do at the moment, is not to wear tight cloths & no bright colors, but cloths that covers your body. I'd like to tell you, that a satisfying answer you will find in ISLAM "If you are not yet affected by the yellow press". I hope this would help you...Best Wishes.