>>Thanks for the answer! It helped a lot. As to Tracy McMillan's talk, her point is that the person she should really have married was herself.
Shame on you. :)
The line you quote is just her strange introduction to what she wants to say next, in a way that she hopes will keep you interested.
Her message follows this. That is simply her hook-phrase/clause/sentence/line.
I've not read her stuff, apart form to answer your question.
She may have a good message. Her one-liners are, I suspect just interesting ways to phrase that sound profound enough to keep interest up, so her message gets across.
Did she mean she was self-obsessed, or that she needed to accept herself first, before others?
With that lead-n, I suspect one of those was her point.
As I said, I've not read her stuff, so I cannot say, but seems likely it is one of those.