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I am Scared of people....I Feel nervous when I talk with Strangers. Please help me overcome this NERVOUSNESS!
Feb 15, 2010 2:11 PM
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5 Ways For Overcoming Shyness: 1. Some of the components of shyness are lack of self-confidence and anxiety around others, difficulty carrying on a conversation, and a lack of knowledge about the expected behavior in social situations or a lack of words whilst learning a new language. If you want to make progress overcoming shyness you need to attend to these issues. 2. You must first determine why you are shy. There are always underlying reasons for the way a person reacts in certain situations. You could prepare/memorize a conversation beforehand. Next, try behaving in a confident manner in private and practice until you begin to see results in public. You can practice saying, Hi my name is xxxx, pleased to meet you in front of the mirror. As ridiculous as it may seem, forcing yourself to act as if you are not shy can be very helpful in learning how to overcome shyness altogether. 3. One way to boost your self-confidence is to always look your best. Looking great makes you feel great and does wonders for your self-esteem. Reduce your fear of rejection by imagining worst case scenarios and how you will handle them. Observing strangers and acquaintances and how they relate to others can also be a great tool in learning how to overcome shyness. 4. If you are having difficulty overcoming shyness, join clubs/ sites or go to events that interest you. It's a lot more comfortable to engage in conversations with those who have common interests. The initial conversation will be much easier since you'll already have a topic of conversation that interests you both. 5. If you do not have the confidence to approach someone new, then smile and try to be approachable. Most people are receptive to a smile and a friendly face. Overcoming shyness can start with something as simple as a smile!
February 15, 2010
Idrees, can you imagine that a stranger may be also nervous meeting you? Help him/her to cope with that. Just say: Hello! And smile! You won't look foolish, believe me. Anyway, try to talk with people just for fun, not because you need something from them. Be creative and think of what this or that person wants to hear. Probably you will feel shy at the beginning, but try, try and try again. I think practice is the best way to overcome your nervousness. Good luck!
February 15, 2010
You have what is called social anxiety - fear of meeting new people in a social situation. We all feel it to some degree, but it becomes a problem when you cannot function normally and the emotions are too negative. In it's most extreme form, it is called xenophobia and it involves blinding panic. This doesn't appear to be what you have, as you say "nervous" rather than "terrified" I can't help you because I am not an expert. One site that might be useful to you is http://www.ehow.com/how_2109510_overcome-social-anxiety.html. Or: search "social anxiety overcoming" on google or some other search engine Good luck.
February 15, 2010
there's a nice phrase!"feel the fear,and do it anyway!" now you are taking to the stranger,ME.are you feeling better?LOL
February 15, 2010
Think about and accept the saying: "Strangers are friends we have not met yet" and you are not going to be afraid of them :)!.
February 17, 2010
idrees
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Arabic, English, French, Hindi
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